While there are a number of different definitions, the short of it is that self help is about bettering yourself, whether it is improving something about you mentally, physically, or emotionally.
The are classes, seminars, books, and video available on many different topics such as…
- Improving self esteem
- Losing weight
- Dealing with stress
- Making more money
- Nurturing relationships
- Healthy Eating
- Managing Money
- Anger Management
- Improving Self Confidence
- Reducing Stress
- Getting in Shape
These days, you don’t have to keep doing the same things in your life that are holding your back, there is always something out there that can help you improve your life.
You can stand up for yourself, take charge of your life, and improve anything. Keep at it, don’t get discouraged and never give up.
Dealing with Low Self Esteem
We are born with healthy self-esteem, but life can take it away. Low self-esteem fills us with limiting, negative beliefs that follow us into adulthood. At which time it just becomes easier to doubt our worth and accept our failures.
Looking at it from objective level, it isn’t surprising we haven’t reached the pinnacle of our success. What is surprising is that we’ve achieved any success at all!
Cause of Low Self-Esteem
There are many causes of low self-esteem but fear plays a big role. Fear holds us back from most all aspects of our life, including relationships, career and inner-peace.
If you were exposed to deliberate, negative remarks, they will manifest as low-self esteem symptoms.
Fears and repressed emotions of your childhood were based on a lack of understanding, due to your age and experience. However, they continue to rule your activities today. Your beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies and form a narrow definition of who you are.
Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem
You may avoid relationships, believing you don’t deserve to be loved. When you do connect with someone, you may never accept the fact that the other person loves you. You rationalize that you are so unlovable there must be something seriously wrong with a person who could love you.
When your potential connections always “find” somebody else, that proves that you don’t deserve good treatment. If your relationships always seem to end lousy, leaving you lonely, the voice of low self-esteem is coming though.
Many people unconsciously select an abusive partner to validate they don’t deserve to be loved or treated well. Abuse is familiar, it is comfortable.
Alternatively, if the person you care for does treat you kindly, you may set out to “test” her, to see if she will be mean to you. This is one more ploy to confirm that you were right about your unworthiness to be loved.
Symptoms of low self-esteem will also manifest in your career. Even if you push yourself to attain status and wealth, you will still have a core belief that you don’t deserve it.
Or, the alternative consequence of low self-esteem is fear of success. It’s easier not to try than to fail. You may start projects that you never finish. As long as you don’t take risks, you don’t have to face the fear that you aren’t good enough.
Unless the root cause of low self-esteem is addressed, symptoms will continue to manifest in failed relationships and stalled careers.
Overcoming Low Self Esteem
In order to truly get in touch with your self-worth, you must take the time to discover the good things about you as a person. Take a piece of paper and a pencil and write down a list of your ten best qualities. Are you forgiving, patient, attentive, funny, generous or witty? Jot those down.
If you find it difficult to do the exercise on your own, ask your mate or a trusted friend to start you off with a few qualities they admire in you.
Once you have your list, read from it everyday and you’ll feel your sense of self-worth growing.
Another way to get in touch with your self-worth is to involve yourself in a hobby. Finding something that you enjoy and are good at can help you become more centered and grounded within yourself and boost your self-esteem.