RelationshipsFeeling needed is important, especially as we grow older and responsibilities change. Studies show that retirees who stay active in their community decrease their risk of depression and tend to live longer than those who withdraw.

One of the great things about healthy relationships is that they build self-esteem. Having a friend or partner who enjoys spending time with you bolsters your confidence and makes you feel worthwhile. When someone confides in you about a problem or asks for advice, you feel a boost of self-confidence knowing this person needs you and respects your opinion.

Socializing can also help stimulate your brain. Each of us encounters a wide variety of people everyday; family, friends, acquaintances, co-workers and even online buddies. Even if you’re a shy person at heart, you can still find a healthy relationship.

Healthy relationships are important. Take time to nurture them and you’ll be a happier, more self-confident person.

Try taking Care of pets or kids. Stay close and talk to people that make you feel good and who you can love and trust. Branch out and talk to people that you don’t necessarily feel comfortable around. Just moved to a new city and don’t know anybody yet?

Join a website like and look for common-interest groups in your area.  Social networking not really your thing? Grab a local paper and get in on one of the group activities at a YMCA or church in your area.

Start with activities you’re already a part of such as work, clubs, groups or the gym. Hanging out with people who already share common interests can make it easier to bond.

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

A healthy relationship is a mutual friendship, dating relationship or romance that is based on good communication, healthy boundaries and mutual respect. Healthy relationships make life fun and exciting.


Whether the relationship is a friendship, business partnership or romance, honesty is key. It is important that both parties have open, honest communication and have respect for one another.

If you make a mistake, forget an appointment or offend the other person, admit the error and apologize.

Just a simple, “I’m sorry” goes a long way in repairing rifts in relationships.


In a healthy relationship, you trust the other person with your hopes, fears, dreams and secrets and they trust you with theirs.

Although it may be tempting to join in on gossip in the workplace or neighborhood, slipping up and sharing a secret entrusted to you can permanently ruin a relationship.


Good communication is important in a healthy relationship. When your friend is talking, be sure to really listen without interrupting or thinking of what you will say next. This is being supportive.


Being in a healthy relationship means you spend time together, but not to the exclusion of all and everybody else. Healthy individuals enjoy spending time together but also divide their time between other people and their own hobbies.


DatingFinding a healthy romantic relationship with someone you love can be a huge self-esteem builder. However, many people get into a romantic relationship and just end up feeling used and abused.

This can be terrible for self-esteem. Make sure that you are in a healthy romantic relationship. Here are a few things to look for…

  • Make sure you can trust your partner
  • Make sure that your partner respects you
  • Communication is also vital
  • Be open and honest with your partner.
  • Spend time with each other


Getting a Pet

petsThere is an unexplained emotional bond that binds humans with animals that goes back to ancient times. Dogs were domesticated from wolves, cats were worshipped, horses were bred for riding, trading and transport, and donkeys for ferrying goods. The human-animal bond continues today because both humans and animals have emotionally benefitted by being together.

Owning a pet requires time and commitment. However, that is a pittance when you weigh the benefits that owning a pet offers. You get company, unconditional love, and a whole new world full of caring and sharing. No wonder owning a pet can do wonders for your self-esteem.

It is a well-known fact that humans can increase their self-esteem by getting a pet, and here are the reasons why:

  • Experience a sense of companionship. Lonely and depressed people have shown a dramatic drop in their depression levels after getting a pet. The pets are with their owners whenever the owners want them to be, and that is a huge advantage for folks seeking companionship.
  • Unconditional love and respect. In fact, the feelings are mutual. The owners realize this and they feel that there is someone in the world who loves and cares for them, and that gets their confidence levels up.
  • Pets depend on you for their survival. Now, when you care for someone (feeding, toilet-training, exercising), you start to feel more responsible and accountable and start looking at yourself as an asset to the human race. It makes you feel like a parent, and a proud one at that. This kind of feeling also gets your self-esteem going.
  • Pets are cute. Pets chew on slippers, fight with toys, care for kids, curl up on the floor, make funny, cute and adorable faces, try their darndest to communicate with you, and more. They become a part of your family, and you well know that an addition of a family member who loves and cares for you can help you boost your confidence.
  • Medical Benefits. Medical research says that owning a pet can bring your blood pressure levels down, reduce stress, improve your eating habits (you remember to feed the pet – and yourself – on time!), and more. Medical researchers say that even the act of petting or fondling your pet is enough to bring stress levels down! When your health improves, so does your self-esteem.
  • Make great companions for children. When you see your kids interacting with your pet and learning more about sharing and giving, it feels nice.
  • Pet will calm you down. This is why you see animal-assisted therapy programs picking up in American hospitals. When you are calm you think more clearly and become a more satisfied person.
  • Animals help you manage time better. You have to care for them because they are so dependent on you; you keep proactively watching the clock and attending to them at specified hours. This helps make you more proactive and a punctual.
  • All animals need to be controlled. When you control them and stop them from doing something inappropriate, you gain more confidence.